Wednesday, March 23, 2016

10 Qualities of a Good Friend


Lately, I've been thinking a lot about friendship. I've been blessed with some superbly amazing friends in my life, but I've also had some people in my life who haven't been quite as stellar. All of those amazing friends share the same basic characteristics, so I thought that I'd point them out to show what the basis of a good friend looks like.

1. They're honest

Honestly (heh..see what I did there..), if you can't trust your friend, then why are you friends to begin with? A friend is someone who's always honest with you, even if it's not necessarily what you want to hear. If they feel like they have to lie to you, then they might not really be someone that you need in your life. They also need to be trustworthy, because you don't want a friend who's going to go and blab all of your secrets.

2. You can laugh with them

This seems kind of basic, but what's a friendship if you can't laugh together? Your friend needs to be someone who won't take themself too seriously and isn't afraid to have a good time.

3. They're kind

Again, this is another basic one, but you don't want to be friends with someone who is constantly tearing people down or is mean. Don't let someone get away with treating you like trash- they should be kind to you!

4. They're not afraid to give you a slap in the face

Not literally, of course. But if you're having some problems or there's an area of your life in which you're not handling things correctly, a real friend is going to sit you down and bring you back to reality.

5.  They're loyal

Someone who's nice to you one day, but won't talk to you the next? Someone who's super chatty over text, but won't give you two words in person? Someone who's nice until their other friends come along? Yeah, that's not someone you need in your life.

6. They know you

They're the person that knows you inside and out. They can read you like a book; they know when you're upset, excited or somewhere in between. They know your likes and dislikes, your favorite things, your routine- they just know you.

7. You can both completely be yourselves

In a friendship, you shouldn't have to worry about what your friend things. You shouldn't have to hide your weird obsessions, or your awkward quirks. You should just be able to be yourself.

8. They're supportive and thoughtful

They text you the day after that big event to ask how it went. They cheer you on for that presentation or audition. They're your biggest cheerleaders, and you know that they genuinely care.

9. They're a good listener

Even when you've told them that same story eight times, they're still going to listen to you. When you're talking, you know that they aren't tuning you out; what you say is actually important to them- they care.

10. They love you, no matter what

All friends get into fights. All friends disagree on certain things. But at the end of the day, you need a friend who's going to love you, no matter how messy your room is, how crazy-hyper you are when you're tired, and how gross you look first thing in the morning. They love you, and that's the most important thing.

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I hope and pray that you all have some people like this in your life- everyone deserves a good friend. So, did I miss anything? Let me know in the comments!




14 comments:

  1. I feel like you can very much relate this to a healthy relationship. Literally what I dream of having in a relationship. Three of my closest friends are spot on to what you have described (:

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    1. You really can!! That's fabulous, I'm really glad that you have people like that in your life:)

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  2. Qualities of a good friend also include giving an honest opinion on whether they should continue writing a hijacked Finnick au or just give up on it halfway

    Aka help me please I don't know what to do

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    1. ^YES. That is a good friend right there.

      And yes you should totally write it. Your writing is amazing AND I NEED TO READ THIS PIECE OF GLORIOUSNESS.

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  3. These are all amazing qualities. Something else that I think is important is a friend who looks out for you. I have a lot of 'a kind of know you but not enough to call you a friend' people in my life and it just so nice when they look out for you in the halls at school.

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    1. That's definitely a very important quality in a friend!!!! People who look out for you are the best:)

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  4. I could not agree with these more...especially #7!!!

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  5. This is so great! #10 is MHM <3

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  6. This is soooo true. This definitely defines my best friend, J.T. We are so great together. One of our favorite things to do is find serious technicalities. Things that people say mean one thing, but generally mean an other. Such as: If Someone put a million dollars in your bank account and you didn't do anything with it, it would do anything for you. Our interprettation was, "yeah, it would. It would gather a lot of intrest." We're the sassy ones in the class.

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